My husband came home late today, worn out and dejected. I found out why, when he finally opened up anbd told me. Since he told his work he's leaving, they have been mercilessly horrible to him. They are upset to lose their best, but you'd think they would show him some respect, after the years of amazing work he's done for them. Nope. Even though he thought they had a good enough relationship for him to trust them, it's been found out they don't even appreciate the advance notice he gave them. And me? I want to do something to help the situation, but I feel completely helpless.
I'm trying to drill into my mind Stormy's post from a week ago, where I commented I'd try to respect the boundaries of my husband's work. But it's hard to stay silent, and just support him. I know any advice I would give him would not solve anything. He feels he's done all he can, he doesn't want a "what he should do" speech from me. He doesn't even want to talk about it.
Even worse, I wasn't exactly good today. I've added to his stress, and again, there's little that I can do to fix it. We'll reconnect tonight. I know it won't be fun for me, but I can't help hoping it will help him somehow! Anyway, please pray for him and for me! We need God on this one! We found out his new job doesn't start for two months, and he doesn't even feel he has the strength to even last two weeks.
I'm resolving to try to stay strong, show my love through obedience, and do all I can, but I don't do well when he falls apart! I love him, I want to protect him! I want to rescue him, like he's done for me so many times! But what do you do when the rescuer needs rescuing?
You throw him a life preserver and hang on! I'm sorry times are so rough right now. It is so hard to sit back and see the one you love is hurting and know there's nothing you can do to make it better. Just keep loving him, supporting him, bolstering him. Be patient and compassionate. He may say he doesn't want or need it, but you know he does. Hoping you both find peace and acceptance...saying some prayers for you both.
ReplyDeleteThat's a terrible feeling, I know. Not taking over at a time like this is very hard. Especially when you're mad over how your sweetie is being treated.
ReplyDeleteI think the best thing you can do is keep the home fires burning as well as you can.
Hope things settle down at work, and if not hope they go by quickly for you.
My husband had a boss that bullied everyone. Jared came home one day very, very down about this guy, so I suggested we make a voodoo doll. He laughed. I offered to buy a troll to keep in his office with the bully's name on it. He laughed. He started picturing that mean ole bully that way and had no more problems after.
ReplyDeleteGood luck, girl!
K's sweetie--Yeah, it is, and I'm trying...and thank you for your prayers!
ReplyDeleteSerenity--Thank you, I'm trying not to take over, although I've failed already, grr...I'm trying to make up for it, though. It's hard...
Rogue--Thanks, that made me smile, which is something I needed right now. Maybe we can get something like that too, LOL!
It's so hard when someone you love is hurting. It sounds like you already know what to do. Patience, respect, support, love. You're right on track!
ReplyDeleteKay..I just got back from New Orleans and I seriously have an extra voodoo doll...want me to christen it after Jay's boss? I have plenty of pins!!!
ReplyDeletesorry that things are rough for your hubby at work. All you can do is respect his wishes to not talk about it, try and be good so there is less stress on him, and remember ther is light at the end of the tunnel - he is leaving - count the days down on a calendar.
ReplyDeleteKeep smiling, better days are coming :) xxx
Meow--Thanks so much! Hopefully knowing will stay translated into doing...
ReplyDeleteK's sweetie--So tempting...I'd better not, though, LOL! You might need it sometime...although it gave Jay a laugh as he thought about where he'd like to stick the pins. We might make one, though. Or one of those stress dolls you throw against the wall. :)
kiwi--Thanks for reminding me, we'll try to focus on that, true...
Prayer, and staying strong and loving. It's okay to keep needing him. He doesn't WANT you to rescue him, he's still your tough man. You can do this. Just be his woman and care for his basic needs. Find ways to have fun if you can. Maybe a little trip or getaway? *wink*
ReplyDeleteStormy--So true, and I'm trying to remember that, even when it gets tough. Were it not for your post, I probably would have not done as well as I have, though.
ReplyDeleteAnd okay, okay I'll look into it, I'm being convinced, believe me... :)